Really when you get right down to it sometimes the only thing you can control about a situation is how you will respond to it. I’m not loving and forgiving by nature. Honestly my first response is to lash out and protect myself or kill anything that’s in my way. This is often not the best response. It’s taken a whole lot of wrong decisions for me to realize I have been pretty bad at responding to people for my most of my life. Pride is a huge factor. Pride cometh before the fall. If put into a bad situation and you respond with kindness or forgiveness, does it make you look weak? Wrong question. Does it matter? In the big picture kind of thing not at all. How does it make you feel? That’s a better question that actually pertains to yourself. Usually if you respond with anger or shut down or protect yourself it feeds these feelings and they become your safety response to situations. Lets say you choose kindness, forgiveness or just take the higher road and keep your mouth shut. What does that action do? Usually no harm to you or anyone around you. It builds character instead of walls or negative responses. It frees you from that situation. When a person can put you into a situation that causes you to respond negatively by them pushing negativity onto you then they just took control of you. Don’t allow them to get the response they expect deserve or want. Good luck it’s hard but it works.
Controlling the situation